Life is short, so take that precious nap. . .
Think of me as a de-motivational speaker. I’m not really sure when the age of perfectionism took hold, but I’m thinking it’s over rated. I have had many women tell me they are “totally Type A”, or “obsessive/ compulsive”. I’m really not sure when certain psychosis became so chic. If you are attached to your perfectionism and are truly happy, then this is not the blog for you. There are so many blogs, websites, and publications devoted to helping you achieve or at least aspire to perfectionism. However; if you are feeling over-burdened and stressed about kids, husband, career, maintaining having it and doing it all, I think I may be able to provide some help. “Letting go” is both art and discipline. Infused with humor, it’s bliss. I’m not sure what the turning point was for me, but in the late 90’s while I was slogging it out at one of the world’s largest software companies, I had a particularly cruel, slave-driving manager. I generally referred to her as “Mephistopheles”, or the “Dark Princess”. Looking back now, although she made my life a living Hell for the year that I worked for her, she gave me some of the best advice anyone has ever given me. (It ranks up there with my mom’s advice to “never marry a man with stinky feet”. ) She said, “Celeste, most of the time 70% is good enough.” I had always subscribed to the 110% rule. What a revelation; whether its running your family or a corporation, you don’t need to earn an A+ in everything you do. Get it done and keep your eye on the prize! And if something isn’t worth 60-70% of your effort, it’s not worth doing at all. You can suddenly dump a lot of things off your plate. Of course, as in everything, there are always exceptions. Olympic or professional athletes, yes, you do have to give 110, 100% of the time. Surgeons, pilots, yes, that includes you. Please no-half assed efforts when you are operating on me or my loved ones. But for most of us, just getting it done is the name of the game. Free up your time for family, fun, and friends.